I received a question from a reader a few days ago about the Text Your Ex Back program by Michael Fiore (www.michaelfiore.org). More specifically, it was a question pertaining to the “no contact rule”.
Today, I want to discuss the no contact rule and how it applies to getting your ex back using the Text Your Ex Back system. Inside the program, Michael Fiore suggests a no contact period of at least 30 days. Why 30?
Well, as Michael Fiore explains in Module 1:
“Because you’re a crazy person right now. You need to stop chasing your ex (even in your imagination) and spend time working on YOU to project the sexy confidence you need to get your ex back. Plus it will take you at least that long to get through the first half of this program if you’re doing it right.”
Giving yourself 30 days before contacting your ex in any way, shape, or form helps free your mind of the neediness and desperation that comes to the forefront of every breakup. Studies also suggest 30 days is the amount of time it takes for the brain to reset itself after an emotionally taxing event.
When humans are emotionally amped up, they tend to act in ways they often regret later. Taking time away from your ex helps keep you from doing or saying something that only makes the situation worse.
Is no contact easy? Absolutely not. In fact, taking a break from your ex when you want him or her back is extremely difficult. It takes courage, faith, and will power. It’s one of the most difficult aspects of the Text Your Ex Back program, but it’s vitally important if you want the best chance of getting back together.
Inside Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore points out:
“You might feel like you NEED to see your ex NOW, or that if you don’t ‘strike while the iron is hot’ you’re going to miss your chance to reignite that spark.
And I totally understand that. Believe me, I’ve been there. I’ve felt that horrible anxiety rushing through my body and that overwhelming craving to see the woman I love, even though she doesn’t seem to love me anymore.”
For bad breakups, 30 days may not be enough. You may need to extend the no contact period to 45, 60, or even 90 days before you send your first text message. During that time, work on your “mental and physical shape”. Focus on you, not your ex.
By and large, the people who are unsuccessful at getting their ex back with the Text Your Ex Back system are those who skip the no contact period, try to cheat their way around it, or negate its importance. It’s not easy, but it makes all the difference in the world.